An explanation and a thank you

Parting is all we know of Heaven,
And all we need of hell.
-Emily Dickinson

MayzieMom here.

First, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your comforting words and sentiments after we said good-bye to Ripley. This is an amazing community and your support means more more than you’ll ever know.

I feel the need to offer some explanation about what happened. I started to go into all the details but ultimately decided to just stick to what was important.

Over the course of six days, we went from a diagnosis of fatty liver disease – a serious but treatable condition – to discovering that the underlying cause was advanced lymphoma.

The weekend before we got the biopsy results back, we had to force feed our normally voracious cat through a syringe and we watched him endure certain indignities that no cat – much less a pirate cat – should have to endure. Once we knew for certain what we were dealing with, we briefly toyed with the idea of chemo. But because our brave boy hadn’t let us know he was sick until the disease was advanced, there was very little hope. We knew that putting him through chemo would be for us, not him, and so we made the heartbreaking decision to let him go.

Our amazing, wonderful vet came to our home to allow Ripley to spend his last moments in the place where he was most comfortable. He slipped quietly and peacefully over the Bridge, with my husband and I petting him and telling him over and over again how much we love him.

I have no doubt that my dad was there to welcome him and that the merry band of pirates he is now leading includes his beloved sister, Molly.

One day soon I want to write a post that focuses on Ripley’s life – not his death – because he brought so much love and laughter to our household for 13 wonderful years.

But right now, it simply hurts too much.

I hope you understand why we have not been around much lately. The loss of my little orange buddy coming so close behind the loss of my dad has taken my breath away and I am finding it difficult at the moment to channel Mayzie’s happy, positive voice. Please know that we think about all of you often and remain with you in spirit, even if we’re not making it around to your blogs. And please know how much your love and kindness means to our entire family.


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46 responses to “An explanation and a thank you

  1. Take time to heal. Everyone needs time to heal. We’ll be around and we’ll keep you in our thoughts and prayers. We hope Mayzie will nudge you back to happy days again one day. *hugs*

  2. So very sorry to hear of your loss. You made the right decision, and to slip away peacefully is a lovely way for Ripley to go.(as opposed to needles, feeling ill, being frightened etc – and then he might not have survuved).

    What a year.

    Best wishes and deep sympathy – Hector’s hoomin xx

  3. PS: Sorry for the typo (survived).

    xx H xx

  4. Sending lots of woofs and purrs your way. And some mighty big hugs too. We sure do send our sympathy too. We know you are hurting so just take your time. We aren’t going anywhere and will be right here when you can come back and we are looking forward to hearing about Ripley’s life. Take care. Big hugs

  5. That’s a beautiful picture of Ripley!

    You never have to explain to us. That’s what’s so great about this community of blogging friends – we all know, care, and “get it.” And, we’ll be here whether you need two days or two months to heal.

    Cap’n Ripley was very lucky to have you as loving caregivers. And we’re just as fortunate to have met you in our blog travels! Take care of yourselves!

  6. The Road Dogs

    Just know that we all understand and are thinking of all of you. Take care . . .

    The Road Dogs

  7. I understand completely. Sometimes you need to focus on your fur friends. Sounds like you made the right choice in helping him on his final journey before he had to suffer. Even still, the heart breaks.

    Mango Momma

  8. Mayzie’s Mom, We were very sorry to hear about Ripley and your father. Our deepest sympathy on the loss of Ripley and your Dad.

    Mayzie, we are very sorry that we haven’t been better @ keeping up with your blog and were not here to offer support for you and your family. You are in our thoughts and purrs.

  9. Dear Mayzie’s Mom…listen to Mayzie’s positive voice, it will help you every day. We know all of you miss Cap’n Ripley, and hope the healing starts soon.

    gussie and his muzzer

  10. Take all the time you need….♥

    Blessings and Love,
    Maggie Mae and Mom

  11. What an appropriate quote from Emily Dickinson. Take the time you need…we’ll be here when you’re ready. Give everyone kisses.

  12. Like everyone is saying, take time to heal. Losing a furchild and dealing with the emptiness left behind is traumatic in itself. When you’re ready, you’ll know it. Just remember we are all here for you. ~hugs~

  13. Some losses take longer to recover from than others. I still grieve for Treat, over three years later, some days. There’s never a good time to lose them, but some times are a lot harder than others! Be kind to yourself and know that we’re thinking of you!

    Bunny’s mom

  14. Take all the time you need – we understand and will be here!

  15. We are away from blogging too right now, and we so understand your pain. Your post today is a lovely tribute to the Captain. Hugs to all of you.

    Woos ~ Phantom, Thunder, Ciara, and Lightning

  16. You know that our Happy is so old she hardly ever gos off the patio any more!! That day is coming for us soon!!! She and Tinker are starting to do a little better together, thank God!
    xx, Tinker & Fern

  17. Take all the time you need to heal, and if there’s anything you need, please let us know. We’ll be here when you’re ready to share your story!

  18. Dear Mayzie Mom….
    Mom and I think of you, hubby, Mayzie, Ranger and Abby each day and know that you are missing the infamous Cap’n Ripley.
    We certainly understand your absence and want you to know we will be here when you are READY to return.
    I miss my pirate Cap’n’s sweet poetry and Pirate personality too.
    Big hugs Madi

  19. Shady

    I agree with Maggie…we are not going anywhere. Wishing you peace during this difficult time. Sending hugs…

  20. we all continue to think of you as well. no one should expect you to bounce back overnight from such a loss. you’ll know when you are ready, and i think the cap’n will somehow let you know, too. 🙂

    booker and asa’s mama

  21. Frankie Furter

    We TOTALLY understand and are here for you when you are ready.

  22. Gail

    You and Mitch are the best parents a pirate cat could have. Ripley would not have wanted to linger and, though it would have been easier to keep him awhile longer, you made the difficult but best choice to let him go. I picture him captaining a ship of “scallywags” with your dear dad as his first mate. Love to you 2, Mayzie, Ranger, and Abby.

  23. We missed the news about Ripley. We are terribly sorry to hear about your little orange buddy.

    Sending love from The Heartbeats,

    Mamma Heartbeat

  24. It sounds to me like you guys did the right thing by Ripley 🙂


  25. We are so sorry to know that your sweet Cap’n Ripley needed to cross the Rainbow Bridge. Mom’s first cat Brutis crossed 2 years ago with liver cancer. He was a big boy like Ripley and went from over 20 lbs to under 10 very quickly before he was helped to cross.. He also decided not to tell us he was sick. We feel you did the right thing for Ripley and he is thanking you for letting him go.
    Love and hugs to you all
    Ruby, Penny & mom

  26. Sarge

    I know this loss is so hard to bear. I think you did the most wonderful thing for him. We furkids don’t understand pain and sickness, so sometimes it’s best to let us go and avoid that. I’m sending your whole pack a bunch of my loving thoughts to help you grieve.
    Grr and a Mournful Woof,
    Sarge, COP

  27. I understand completely. So very sorry about the Captain and your heartbreak which is very real and painful. We are sending our love to you. It will take time.

  28. If you’ve never heard a Scottie “Arooo Roo” then trust me when I tell you that my “Roo Roo” today means that We all feel your pain at my house. It’s not a sad sound. It’s a sound from the heart and the mind that means “I’m thinking of you and saying it the best way I can.”

    From Our house to yours, Arooooooooo Roo!!!
    Arooooo Rooo Cap ‘n Ripley!!
    Aroooo Roo Grandpeep!!!!

    Your friends, Stuart and peeps

  29. I am so very sorry to hear about the loss. It is never easy to say goodbye to one of the family. 😦

  30. Mom and I always say it is the bestest gift anyone khan give us – bekhause it hurts the giver the most –

    But letting us khross with dignity is so furry appreciated – and when the day khomes, we’ll let woo know how much –


  31. Mayzie Mom-
    We are so sorry to hear about your kitty, Cap’n Ripley. Our thoughts are with you.
    Wyatt, Stanzie and Mom

  32. We can’t imagine how difficult this must be right now. We’re thinking of you guys! Come back when you’re ready.

  33. We understand. Sending big hugs to you all and praying for your hearts.


    Jackie, Dillon, and family

  34. Pip

    Sending you lots of yorkie love! Take all the time you need. We will be here waiting for you.

    Your pal, Pip

  35. We undewstand and know the pain..pleez just know we love you and awe hewe fow you whenevew you feel weady to wetuwn.
    Suffewing two such gweat losses is too hawd..Mommi and Daddi and I awe so vewy sowwy and I want to send my healing smoochies fow youw heawt

  36. memories of Ripley will carry you through
    Benny & Lily

  37. Jed & Abby in MerryLand, USA

    What everybuddy else said. We’re here. We’re thinking of you. Mama has lost scores of Danes and 8 cats and it hurts just as bad every time as it did the first time. Mama lost her mama, too, so she knows that terrible loss, too. Big Okie hugs,

    Jed & Abby and mama ML

  38. Roo

    Hugs to you and your family during this healing time.

    The Roo Family

  39. We are thinking of you & your family.

  40. Not much more we can say beyond what we said a while back, but we are sending big, gentle hugs your way. Love, Chick, Little Zee, and foster mama Alex

  41. We all, here in Corgi Country, understand. Take all the time you need and know we are thinking about you and praying for you. Love to all!

  42. Sam

    I think Ripley knew your Dad needed him. We are sending you hugs.


  43. We are very sorry to hear about Ripley’s passing. We all know how hard it is to talk about right now, so take your time. Hugs and purrs…. Danielle and her Human

  44. Tucker

    We understand. It is very difficult to lose the ones you love.

    woof – Tucker

  45. We love you Mayzie and Amber!!!

    Zona and Family

  46. I am so sorry I just got around to catching up on posts that I had missed. I am so sorry for your loss and this brought tears to my eyes and was written beautifully. It sounds like you did the right thing for Ripley though. We send our love and prayers to your family.

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